• Terriann Muller

Don't be a Scrooge

Seriously, how easy is it to offer a kind word or gesture? Even offering a smile is powerful for both the giver and the receiver!

Have you ever noticed how good you feel when you act out a kind gesture? The best way I know how to get out of a funk is to take my eyes completely off of myself and first turn to God, then turn to helping someone else. 

And hell, yes, I know what it feels like to have zero inclination to even fathom helping someone else when my whole world is in shambles…. I really do and more than once. I know that feeling. 

But, let me back up just a minute… for the last several days, I have woken up cranky. I have wanted to bury my head in my pillow and binge watch Netflix. I didn’t want to face the day. You might be thinking, “ya, so what I feel like that every day” and what I would say to that, welcome to the club, giving you a high five,…. Kidding !!! What I really would say is STOP IT!! 

Anyway, some of you know and some don’t know, I have a very real, very difficult situation in my family. It is not a brand-new situation but for whatever reason I have been waking with my racing heart, angst, fear, concern, and just plain old cranky. 

Since that is 100% not who I am, not my norm, with intention, I am going back to a familiar standby. I am looking for an opportunity to volunteer or help someone in need. What I came up with is taking extra jackets, coats, and blankets to a local shelter. I have to get in motion and let God do the heaving lifting on the things I have no control over. 

So often in widowhood, we become laser focused on ourselves, in our sorrow, loneliness, pain, hopelessness, to the point we totally blow past someone else in need of even the smallest of things.  

So often, widowhood or not, we forget what's important, let’s call it “first world problems.”

  • My cell phone won’t hold a charge

  • My designer dog chewed up a $40 pillow from Pier One

  • I don’t feel like going out to the grocery store to buy….anything I freaking want

  • I lost my $25 mascara

What else, I could come up with hundreds of things that in the grand scheme of things is NOT life shattering 

You get the idea! 

I want to challenge you to get out of the house with the sole intention of spreading good cheer!

  • Start committing random acts of kindness.

  • Volunteer, for a day or weekly reoccurring, do what fits with your schedule 

  • Spend just 45 - 60 minutes going through your own winter warm clothes and bedding that you haven’t worn or used in 5 years and haul them straight to the homeless shelter near you… don’t know how to find it, google “homeless shelter near me” and watch what happens.

  • Gather up a box of canned goods and look for the local fire department that is surely collecting food for the less fortunate (make sure they are NOT expired) 

  • If you have always wanted to volunteer at the hospital as a baby holder, do it now- make the initial call and start the process 

As we approach the holidays, let’s get our hearts right and our eyes shifting on ways we can be a difference maker! 

Let’s learn to really focus on our blessings, running water, abundantly available food sources, heat, carpet on our floors, a freezer with tons of fresh meat and ice cream in it, an indoor toilet that flushes, clothes in our closets that we will never wear again but there they are.

Giggle (not sure why I giggled there but I did!)

You know what I’m saying, though, right? 

If this doesn’t make you feel better, I will eat my hat. Well I don’t have a hat on but if I did, I would! 

To recap: 

  1. Get off your anatomy and do something altruistic ASAP!

  2. Write a list of 29 things you are gratefulI want to hear from you!! What did you do, how did it make you feel, what are you grateful for??

Love and light,